Firm Ground

I try to keep things nice and lighthearted around here.  I don't normally tackle any serious issues.  I don't want or like to ruffle feathers, but I think it's time I voice my opinions.

1.  It's time to weigh in on the Time magazine cover.

I don't like it.  I am a breastfeeding advocate.  I am currently breastfeeding my third child.  I am all for breastfeeding children into their toddler years.  I am for letting the child self-wean.  I think the image is meant to stir up controversy.  It makes breastfeeding look.... wrong.  The boy is just standing there like a knot on a log.  Showing no affection or emotion.  I was hard pressed to believe that was even her child.

Breastfeeding is what is best for your child.  It is formulated to be the exact perfect needs for your individual child.  Making it look wrong on any level is a real disservice to babies everywhere.  I have a breastfeeding goal of two years with my little one.  I only made it nine months with my son.  I wanted to go longer, but was made to feel like the one year mark was it.  Past that and it was all cow's milk.  Like there is some kind of huge finish line at one year.  With my oldest daughter, I feel shameful.  Shameful because I had to return to work.  A job where I wasn't allowed to pump every couple of hours.  My milk depleted, eventually drying up, and she had to be put on a bottle.  With formula.  Ick, that is such a bad word to me now.  If only I had known then what I know now, they wouldn't have denied me the right to nourish my child.

I'm very satisfied that my youngest has never touched a bottle.  In fact, we don't even own a single one.  For the first six months of her life she received nothing but breast milk.  Even now, at ten months, she only gets her sippy cup at lunch and dinner time.

Bottom line here is that ultimately the decision of how long to breastfeed is up to the mother, the child, and possibly the father.  We'll give Dad's a little say so.  If you don't like what you see, it is very easy to turn your head in the other direction.  So turn your damn head and shut your mouth.

2.  Gay marriage.

Why the hell not?    What in the world gives anyone the right to say that two HUMAN BEINGS that love each other can not be wed?  It's narrow minded and ignorant to discriminate against others.  Let's not blame gay marriage on ruining marriage.  Heterosexuals have been getting legally married for centuries and it's something like 1 in every 2 marriages end in divorce.  Uh... sure gay marriage will ruin straight marriage.  I'm pretty damn sure most straight marriages are ruining themselves.

If you are going to try to lobby the whole "it's in the Bible" crap at me... let's go over a few other things that are in that book...

-Leviticus 19:27 reads "You shall not round off the side growth of your heads nor harm the edges of your beard."  Guess you'll need to stop shaving and getting those hair cuts.

-Leviticus 11:8 reads "You shall not eat of their (pigs) flesh nor touch their carcasses; they are unclean to you."  Welp... no more bacon, sausage, or ham (a staple of the American Easter celebration... ironic, no?).  Oh and in the pure sense... no more football 'cause you know they throw around a pigskin.

-Leviticus (AGAIN) 19:19 reads "You are to keep my statutes, You shall not breed together two kinds of your cattle; you shall not sow your field with two kinds of seed; nor wear a garment upon you of two kinds of material mixed together."  Oops!  Better check your tags... if it's polyester, you're screwed.

-Divorce is also a sin, as well as eating shellfish, wearing gold, or tattoos.

Leviticus is also the chapter with the infamous words of not lying with another man, abomination... blah, blah, blah...  If you are going to ignore the rest of the chapter, don't pick and choose the one line that discriminates and use it in a hateful manner.

Bottom line here is that the Bible is a book of contradictions.  Matthew 7:1 - "Judge not, least ye be judged."  7:2 - "For with that judgement ye judge, ye shall be judged; and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again."

I should mention that I had to look up all of these passages.  I only know Psalms 23 by heart, and the whole "not judging" line.  I grew up going to church with my mom and sometimes with my grandmother.  I've been to Baptist churches, Methodist churches, Presbyterian churches, even a Catholic church once.  I have Faith. I am spiritual.  I believe in a higher power.  I don't believe in organized religion.  I don't believe in pushing my beliefs on others.  I don't believe in judging others for whatever religion they choose to put their Faith in.  I believe we all have a choice.  Not a single one of us knows for certain what happens when we are no longer on this Earth.  Are we really going to spread hate for the short time we are here?


  1. 1.Breastfeeding.....this was the original way babies were nourished....if the mother could not produce milk then a "wet nurse" was brought is the natural way and healthiest way to begin nourishing a child and as far as the length of time I agree with you should be solely up to the parents and child and anyone outside of those 3 should ALWAYS respect those wishes.....I am proud of you and Chris for your parenting skills......which brings me to the next subject
    2.As a child you were brought up with the beliefs that you should NEVER judge someone because of their race,creed,color, religious beliefs or personal orientation......we are all "children of God"....and we know he makes no therefore I don't have problems with ANY 2 people who love each other being in a marriage that constitutes their commitment to each other.....legally !.....we all have that right and to judge it is just plain archaic thinking...
    another reason I am proud of you AND Chris for teaching your children NOT to be biased or hold prejudice towards others for any reason...
    and as far as gay marriage ruining heterosexual marriages.....ummmm do people realize how really stupid that even sounds!

  2. I didn't breastfeed, but that was a personal choice. It just wasn't for me. I obviously realize that breastfeeding is a natural and beautiful thing. I'm all for it for any mom that wants to do it. The cover was way too much though. All it did was irritate those who are already uncomfortable with women breastfeeding in public. Geez.

    And gay marriage? I agree with you 100%.

    1. Yes exactly! It's like they picked the one photo that would set off the most people. I breastfeed in public, but I am discreet about it. Not because I am worried about what others think, but because I just don't want people seein' my boobins! =)